I feel like a fake.
People are going to realise that I’m not as clever as they think I am.
I didn’t deserve that promotion; it was just luck.
People don't really mean it when they compliment me.
My achievements are not as amazing as other people think they are.
When I get rewarded for my hard work, it’s hard to feel that I have earned it.
My peers are all cleverer than me.
Sound familiar? If so, you may be experiencing Imposter Syndrome. This pattern of thoughts and feelings can cause chronic self-doubt and insecurity, even in the face of overwhelming evidence of our capabilities. It is particularly likely to strike at moments of success. “Imposters” might worry they got hired by mistake, and feel anxious at the thought of being “found out”.
When we experience Imposter Syndrome, it is difficult to internalise our achievements and we attribute them to luck rather than hard work. We lack self-belief and confidence. No matter how successful we look on paper, we feel like frauds.
Whilst no one is immune from Imposter Syndrome, some of us are more likely to experience it than others. For example, research suggests that women experience higher rates of Imposter Syndrome compared to men. But the bottom line is this – if you have ever felt like a fraud at work, you are not alone.
How to beat Imposter Syndrome
Imposter Syndrome can be temporary state as we adjust to a new job or promotion. But if these feelings linger, Imposter Syndrome can lead to high levels of stress and anxiety. This can prevent us from reaching our potential, and can even lead to professional burnout.
If you feel that Imposter Syndrome is holding you back, here are some tips for re-taking control:
Know your enemy – awareness is the first step to change, so learn to spot when imposter feelings emerge. Once you are aware of the triggers you can start to make changes, for example by spending extra time preparing for team meetings or presentations.
Talk it out - speaking with a trusted friend or colleague can be a great way of seeking reassurance and gaining another perspective.
Remind yourself of what you have accomplished – keep hold of the evidence of your accomplishments, such as emails from grateful colleagues or clients. Looking through these can provide a real boost if your confidence starts to dip.
Become a mentor – it can be easy to feel inadequate if you only compare yourself to peers or senior colleagues. To gain some perspective, offer to teach the new members of your team – you will be amazed by how much you know.
Be realistic – certain events, such as starting a new role, have a very steep learning curve. But remember – nobody is expecting you to know everything on day one. Instead of feeling out of your depth, see your relative inexperience as an opportunity to learn.
Be kind to yourself – whether you are new to a job or an old hand, everyone makes mistakes. Forgive yourself for the occasional slip up, nobody is perfect.
If you would like further support in overcoming Imposter Syndrome, please feel free to get in touch to arrange a free, no-obligation initial appointment with me.
Kathryn Perry
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